Clinking two bottles of rootbeer in front of the setting sun with a field in the background.

A breath of fresh air!

John McCain, Barack Obama, and YOU walk into a bar.  What happens?

Let’s look at these other “interesting” situations first.

White supremacists are gathering with Black Live Matter activists nearby.  What happens?  Watch as the two groups see and relate to each other as people.

US House of Representatives member, Beto O’Rourke, is asked if it is disrespectful for football players to take a knee during the national anthem.  Listen as he both shares his view and acknowledges that reasonable people can disagree on this issue.

The amazing thing in these situations is that a difficult issue is addressed without vilifying the “other”. 

An elder white man and an elder black woman sitting a bit apart on a bench and talking to each other.

It is possible to stand in your truth and have a valuable conversation with someone who has a different point of view.   In such a conversation you each share your truth and

  • Listen to each other
  • See value in each other
  • Watch for common ground

The point isn’t to change opinions.  It is to understand each other.  That’s the way to work together and come up with solutions.

Two young women, seated and having a conversation with each other.

This kind of conversation isn’t easy.  You may have learned to avoid difficult conversations instead of having a civil discussion with a difference in opinions.

Practice by starting “small”.  Have conversations about less charged topics like owning a dog versus a cat or living in the city instead of the country.  Pick someone you know and already have a firm common ground with and have a conversation about a local issue.

Another way to practice is with conversation between different parts of yourself.  Create SoulCollage® cards for two parts of yourself that have differing opinions, and write a dialog between the cards. 

Have difficult conversations.
Respect each other while discussing different beliefs.
Walk away with appreciation for each other.

That’s what happens when John McCain, Barack Obama, and you walk into a bar.